Breakups are one of the most difficult times in our lives. Regardless of who broke up and how it happened, it can be a very painful experience.
How we choose to deal with our emotions after a breakup will have a great impact on how effective our healing process will be. But it takes time and it really is a learning process. However, a broken heart can be healed, and self-esteem can be restored.
If you’ve recently experienced the end of a relationship this post is for you. I’m going to help you navigate your feelings in a healthy way, learn how to find joy again, and not make it harder on yourself than it already is.
Allow yourself to feel
Allow yourself to feel your feelings but don’t let them take over your life. Let yourself cry. It may take days, weeks, or even months to get all the emotions out but let yourself feel the sadness instead of bottling it all up. You’ll feel a million times better after all your emotions are out.
These emotions are temporary
It can be difficult to believe that the pain you’re feeling will go away. But the truth is that it really will go away eventually. All emotions are temporary, remember that.
Don’t force the healing process
Some relationships take longer to heal, especially if you have been in a relationship for many years. Healing is a slow process. You just have to be patient and kind to yourself. Don’t try to rush things like getting into a new relationship right away.
Talk to someone
Talk to someone you truly believe, a friend, a family member, or a therapist. It’s good to empty all that pain from your body.
Don’t try to get in touch with your ex
Don’t contact your ex if you want to get over a breakup. Delete his / her number and stop following their social media accounts, too. Think about all the reasons why your relationship ended.
Focus on yourself
Pamper yourself, do things you love, and experience new things. Now you have all the time to invest only in yourself. Find yourself again and learn to be happy single. Realize your self-worth, just because it did not work out with someone does not mean that you have become less of a person.
Get rid of memories
Delete all the photos, get rid of any gifts, and hide anything away that reminds you of them. You don’t want to have constant reminders of them in your life.
Remember that “the one” is still out there
The fact that you’ve both broken up shows that it wasn’t meant to be. Just remember that the person you will spend the rest of your life with is still out there.
Be thankful for what you’ve learned
Gratitude is the key to everything. Be thankful for everything you’re learning through this journey. Everything you go through and all the pain you’re feeling now will make you stronger.
You’re incredible and loved
Sometimes the ending of a relationship can leave us feeling unloved. But this is not true. There are a lot of people around you who love you deeply. And remember, the end of the relationship has absolutely no effect on your value or self-worth.
If you find yourself reading this during a hard breakup, I am sorry you’re struggling. It will get better, I promise. What you’re going through is real, painful, and valid. But it won’t defeat you. Give yourself time and self-compassion. Allow yourself to go through the healing process. Stay strong. Sending you so much love ❤️